Building Real Confidence

Building Real Confidence

The phrase "fake it 'til you make it" often gets thrown around as a confidence-building strategy with the thought that outwardly projecting an air of confidence (even if you don't “feel” it) you can eventually trick your mind into believing.

There's some truth to this, but it's important to understand that true confidence isn't about a superficial facade. It's about building a solid foundation of self-belief from within.

You can talk yourself up as a good basketball player all day, but if you’ve never hit the hardwood the emperor’s new clothes will quickly reveal themselves.

Debunking the "Fake It 'Til You Make It" Myth:

Superficiality: While projecting confidence outwardly can sometimes be beneficial, relying solely on this approach can lead to burnout. It's like wearing a mask – eventually, it becomes tiring and unsustainable.

Ignoring Underlying Issues: "Faking it" can mask deeper issues like self-doubt, insecurity, and imposter syndrome. These issues won't magically disappear; they need to be addressed to cultivate genuine confidence.

Potential for Backfire: If your outward display of confidence doesn't align with your inner feelings, it can lead to feelings of inauthenticity and even increase anxiety.

Proven Strategies For Building Real Confidence

Instead of "faking it," focus on proven strategies for cultivating genuine confidence. Putting in the work is like building a solid foundation on which you build your dream home/life.

Embrace Challenges:

Step outside your comfort zone:.

Regularly challenging yourself with new experiences boosts self-confidence. This could involve taking on a new skill, public speaking, or simply trying a different restaurant.

Learn from setbacks: View failures as learning opportunities. In fact, that’s exactly what they are. Analyze what went wrong, identify areas for improvement, and try again. That’s the recipe for success.

Focus on the process: Celebrate small victories and acknowledge your progress, even if you haven't reached your goal.


Practice Self-Compassion:

Be kind to yourself: Treat yourself with the same compassion and understanding you would offer a  friend.

Challenge negative self-talk: Identify and reframe negative thoughts. Instead of "I'm not good enough," try "I am learning and growing."

Acknowledge your strengths: Make a list of your accomplishments, talents, and positive qualities. Try journaling at the end of each day. Write about the things you did well, and the things you need to work on, thus increasing your self-awareness and teeing you up for bigger wins tomorrow.


Develop Your Skills:

Invest in your education: Continuously learn and grow in your field of interest.

Practice and hone your skills: Consistent practice builds mastery and increases confidence. Michael Jordan got cut from his high school basketball team, so he went home and practiced… and practiced… and practiced.

Seek feedback: Ask for constructive criticism from trusted family members, friends, colleagues, and mentors.


Focus on Your Strengths:

Identify your areas of expertise: What do you do well? What comes naturally to you?

Leverage your strengths: Seek out opportunities to utilize your strengths and contribute your unique talents.

Build on your successes: Celebrate your accomplishments and use them to fuel your confidence.


Build a Supportive Network:

Surround yourself with positive people: Spend time with individuals who uplift and encourage you. On the opposite end of the spectrum, cut out those who drag you down. The company you keep has more of an effect on you than most people realize.

Seek out mentors: Find someone you admire who has done what you’re trying to do. Ask, absorb, and earn from their experiences, saving you the time from making the mistakes they made along the way. Most often, if someone is more successful than you, they’ve made more mistakes.

Join a community: Connect with like-minded individuals who share your interests. There’s no lack of places to find people just like you, trying to accomplish exactly what you’re attempting. We’ve never been more connected and empowered as we are today.


Prioritize Self-Care:

Engage in regular exercise: Physical activity releases endorphins, which can boost mood and confidence.

Get enough sleep: Adequate sleep is crucial for cognitive function and emotional well-being.

Practice mindfulness and relaxation techniques: Techniques like meditation and deep breathing can help reduce stress and anxiety.


Set Realistic Goals:

Break down large goals into smaller, more manageable steps: Big goals can seem… well, rather big, even intimidating. Whatever you’re working on, break it down into smaller incremental steps you can check off with each layer of accomplishment.

Celebrate each milestone along the way: Did we say this one before? Yeah, we did. And it’s no mistake. Don’t forget, you’re here to enjoy life. Take each moment you can to ENJOY THE RIDE! The hardest patches we go through end up being the most transformative. If you find yourself in a deep dark tunnel, dig in, push through, and know that you’ll emerge on the other side a better person than when you entered.

Don't be afraid to adjust your goals as needed: Your goals are not set in stone. You’re the one who set them, so it makes perfect sense that you also have the power to tweak ‘em as life, your experience of it, and everything else in between ebbs and flows with your actions and those of the 8 billion other people on this planet.


Building genuine confidence is an ongoing journey, not a destination. It requires consistent effort, self-reflection, and a willingness to embrace growth. While "faking it 'til you make it" may have some short-term benefits, focusing on these proven strategies will help you cultivate lasting self-assurance created through action.

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Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and does not constitute professional advice.

 

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